Joseph William DeMatthews

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Debbie & Wayne

Keeping you & your handsome son Joey in my thoughts & prayers everyday. I wish there was something I could do or say to make things easier for you - someday though you will all be together.

 

Love & hugs

Diane & family

 

Hi Debbie

 

I know it's been a long time since webcraft so I didn't really expect you to remember.  Please tell Wayne thank you for the regards & how sorry I am for what happend with your son. I read your son's story again & I can see how much both of them care about people!!  How much they helped people who couldn't help themselves - & Wayne saving that persons life - you have so much to be proud of!! You did a fine job raising your sons!! 

I know the holidays are coming & how you feel about them - but please try to enjoy them with your family - your son & grandchildren.  Know Joey is there with you - you said he sends you signs & I believe that because both my mom & father have!!  It may sound funny but there were times when my husband & I were out & all of a sudden I could smell my mom!!  I would go nuts because it was so strong & my husband couldn't sense it!!  No one else could  - it was always a smell when her clothes came out of the dryer - call me nuts but I was the only one!!  So I believe in the signs - they are still with us always because of the love in our hearts!!

Take care of yourself Debbie - try to enjoy the days ahead - at least stay strong!!  We will keep in touch.

 

Love & hugs

Diane & family

HAPPY BELATED BIRTHDAY JOEY!

Dearest Debbie: I haven't been by in so long I hope you have not forgotten me. What a wonderful tool this website is to help us remember all the important dates of our lives. It is so good to see Joey's handsome face again.HAPPY BELATED BIRTHDAY JOEY!

Dearest Debbie: I haven't been by in so long I hope you have not forgotten me. What a wonderful tool this website is to help us remember all the important dates of our lives. It is so good to see Joey's handsome face again.

I am sorry your health is not as good as once was and you have had to quit work. I do understand how not being physically well takes it's toll on a person that is in grief. I have had some physical problems and have also quit work. While reading your letters to Joey, I can understand how it would help to be able to understand why his passing happened and a reason for it. I do not know if we will ever find that out. I still don't understand why my beautiful daughter left when she gave so much to the world and I am sure thousands of parents just like us feel the same way.

Long ago, I realized that we would not find all answers here on earth. Even as a young person I felt that way, now we only have faith and hope in our Heavenly Father that we will one day have the answers. Others cannot answer that for us.

My hope for you is that you will continue to feel Joey close to you and look for the signs that he leaves you. They are there. He lives, but not as we live. You will see. I offer you my prayers for hope and the well being of you and your family. God bless you.

Fondly,
Linda Elliott

I am sorry your health is not as good as once was and you have had to quit work. I do understand how not being physically well takes it's toll on a person that is in grief. I have had some physical problems and have also quit work. While reading your letters to Joey, I can understand how it would help to be able to understand why his passing happened and a reason for it. I do not know if we will ever find that out. I still don't understand why my beautiful daughter left when she gave so much to the world and I am sure thousands of parents just like us feel the same way.

Long ago, I realized that we would not find all answers here on earth. Even as a young person I felt that way, now we only have faith and hope in our Heavenly Father that we will one day have the answers. Others cannot answer that for us.

My hope for you is that you will continue to feel Joey close to you and look for the signs that he leaves you. They are there. He lives, but not as we live. You will see. I offer you my prayers for hope and the well being of you and your family. God bless you.

Fondly,
Linda Elliott

To Joey's Mom, my Mom, Lolly Tringali, had to bury her Joey, my brother, 08-10-06. She was never the same, and never stopped missing my brother. She did the best she could, but on 05-08-09, my Mom passed away, and is with my brother now. I find some comfort that she is with him now, but my heart is so sad my Mom is not here. She was 70 when she lost Joey, her immune system, her physical and emotional pain was just too much. My brother is no longer in pain, and I need to find comfort in that. He was in deep emotional pain. Your son, your words, are just beautiful! I've read your guest book, with a heavy heart, and tears in my eyes. You are truly honoring your son, and that is what he would want. Your son Wayne is honoring his brother, he's saving lives every day. Giving back does help the pain. Peace be with you and your family, and keep honoring your son's life. Day by day, minute by minute. Sometimes second by second. Thanks for sharing your son with us. What a gem! Enjoy your son that is here on earth, he is also a gem!

Always,
Theresa

Message by Carolina

One cannot help but be touched and saddened by your entries. I have lost loved ones but to lose a child, I can only imagine.
Whenever you feel this profound sadness first go to the bible and read a few of the following accounts about others who lost children, that still had soo much life ahead of them. Meditate on the example that Jesus left us. For example,
On another occasion, Jesus was approached by a man named Jairus, who asked for help for his gravely ill 12-year-old daughter. Shortly thereafter, word came that the girl had died. This news left Jairus heartbroken, but Jesus told him: “Have no fear, only exercise faith.” At the family’s home, Jesus went in to the lifeless girl. Taking her by the hand, he said: “Maiden, I say to you, Get up!” What happened? “Immediately the maiden rose and began walking.” How did her parents react? “They were beside themselves with great ecstasy.” As Jairus and his wife embraced their daughter, they felt deep happiness. It was as if they were dreaming.—Mark 5:22-24, 35-43.
Such detailed Bible accounts about the resurrection of children shows you what you can look forward to. Jesus said: “The hour is coming in which all those in the memorial tombs will hear his voice and come out.” (John 5:28, 29) It is purposed that Jesus will give life to those who have died. Countless millions of sons and daughters lost in death will “hear his voice” when he speaks to them: “I say to you, Get up!” Those young ones will again be walking and talking & may your Joey be among them. And like Jairus and his wife, you will be “beside yourselves with great ecstasy.”
As you grieve please know that the only true God will sustain you through this intense and profound sadness, just as he has done for servants in the past. You can approach the great “Hearer of prayer,” trusting that he will give you help. (Psalm 65:2) Many times, you will feel that you can not endure one more moment of life without your son, it is then that you must asked God to give you relief. He will always give you strength and courage to continue living. If you pray to the only true God in faith, the great God of heaven will sustain you. After all, He promises those who strive to serve him that he is “ grasping your right hand, the One saying to you, ‘Do not be afraid. I myself will help you.’”—Isaiah 41:13. I do hope that this has provided comfort to you as it has helped me to deal with lost loved ones.
ThHinking of you and your family.
Carolina

Hello dear friend, thank you for all the wonderful, kind words. I feel the same about you and your precious Joey. He has become like one of my own. I too know the boys are good buddies and are probably having a great time together.  Just think of the day we will all be together, what a big party we will have. I know it can't come soon enough but remember, you also have others who need you and depend on you. Joey is fine and is in good hands.  Oh, I still have many days when I just don't want to do anything. The pain is too much but, I know that my boys would want me to go on and live my life the best I can. Life will never be the same again because a part of it is gone. The holidays are fast approaching and yes, they are very diffucult to get through.  The one thing that helps me is, I believe that everyday in heaven is a celebration and our angels are so happy and joyous. Even though we here are sad and lonely. We will always love them and forever remember every memory they left for us.  Joey is always with you and would want you to be happy. I know he is. I hope you do call me, I would love to talk to you. I think we could help each other. Take care my friend, with lots of love and hugs.

Michelle

  

im so sorry for what you are going through. I lost my beautiful Son 2  1/2  months ago. I  still dont know how I survive without him. I relive the nightmare everyday when I awake cuz he's  in my thoughts the second I AWAKE and I RELIZE he's gone. I cried when I saw your son's website I know how much you loved him and how much you miss him   I know theres not a word I can say to make you feel better. not a word to help your broken heart.  we just have to pray that someday SOON we will all be reunited with our loved ones forever.  I wanted to share this poem with you.  GOD BLESS YOU AND YOUR FAMILY